Fatha Torch: Be the Dad You Wish You Had

Ep. 17 This episode is a must-listen for parents seeking guidance on discipline and communication with their children.
In today's society, many parents walk around on eggshells, and it seems like fathers have no authority when it comes to raising the kids. As an advocate for traditional fatherhood, I have dedicated myself to helping other parents like you reclaim your power and raise kids who respect and obey you. 
It's important to establish boundaries and respect, rather than trying to be your child's friend. Issues of teen mental health issues, addiction, and other taboo subjects must be address properly. By advocating for open communication and a supportive community, I believe we can help our children become confident, successful adults. 
 
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Any Fool Can Make a Baby | FATHA TORCH
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In this episode, you will be able to:
Explore the complexities of modern fatherhood and its influence on children's growth.
Scrutinize current parenting approaches and the growing disregard for respect.
Recognize the significance of a solid foundation and discipline in raising children.
Embrace the power of community backing, empathy, and solidarity within the black community.
Tackle open dialogues on taboo subjects and the consequences of societal repression.
The key moments in this episode are:00:00:00 - Being a Father vs Being a Friend, 00:01:14 - Parenting in Today's Society, 00:05:40 - The Importance of Respect, 00:09:36 - The Reality of Parenting, 00:13:36 - The Challenges of Parenting for Black Fathers, 00:15:16 - Advocating for the Children, 00:17:38 - Bring Back the Village, 00:21:06 - Be the Part, 00:23:07 - Breaking Taboos, 00:24:50 - You Are Not Alone,

Ep. 16 Sitting in our favorite pizza joint, Create a Pizza, I felt a sense of peace as we shared a vegan meatball pizza. Little did I know, I was about to embark on a journey that would forever change my understanding of masculinity and empathy. As I conversed with my wife, I realized I had to adapt my behaviors to be a better husband and father. But what happened next was truly unexpected and has left me with a newfound appreciation for life's little moments.
The resources mentioned in this episode are:
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Focus on understanding yourself and your own expectations in relationships, especially with your children and spouse.
Make sure to respect and love your spouse, communicating openly and without belittling or disregarding their opinions and feelings.
Adapt to your children's needs without losing the foundation of being a father, ensuring you maintain effective communication.
Give your children the benefit of the doubt and avoid making assumptions based on their actions or the people they associate with.
Develop a strong relationship with your children through dialogue and understanding, being open to their experiences and perspectives.
Avoid bringing up past experiences to justify assumptions about your children's behavior and instead focus on the present situation.
Understanding RelationshipsIn relationships, it is essential to acknowledge the differences in how men and women approach them. Each partner comes with their unique views and expectations, often shaped by their personal experiences and upbringing. Understanding these differences is the first step towards building a strong foundation for a deeper connection with one's partner. When communication is clear and respectful, the relationship thrives, making it easier for both parties to navigate any difficulties that arise.
Fathers represent authority, so they should be able to understand or overstand when something is out of order. - Rah
 
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Any Fool Can Make a Baby | FATHA TORCH
Are You a Good Father? It All All Comes Down to This 
Letter to My Youngest Son | FATHA TORCH
 
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Ep. 15 Your dad was an asshole, alcoholic, abuser or just not around to teach you how to be a good man right? So it's up to us the be the change we wish to see in the next generation of fathers.
I was surrounded by men who were a waste of time, women who blocked the teaching of fatherhood, and people who were more excited to see a stranger than me.
I realized I needed to learn how to be patient with my children, treasure them, protect them from emotional and mental harm, and always be real with them. In this episode, you will learn the following:1. How can you be the dad you wish you had without a good example?2. What does it take for fathers who are not in the home to create a balanced family for their children?3. What can we do to overcome the pain of our own past trauma in order to be a better father?
 
RESOURCES
Incarcerated Fathers Statistics 
63% of federal inmates reported having minor children. 50% of those inmates are black men. How can we be good fathers if we are away and institutionalized? 
Local Programs for Fathers - ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION
 
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What Men Fear the Most | FATHA TORCH
Overcoming the ”You Ain’t Shit” Narrative in Co-Parenting | FATHA TORCH
Are You a Good Father? It All Comes Down to This | FATHA TORCH
 
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Ep 14 Men fear being unable to provide, being questioned as fathers, and being unable to protect our loved ones. Men often express fear in destructive ways such as aggression and anger, instead of vulnerability. As men we must be mindful of how we express our fear, as it can stifle the growth of relationships and cause resentment. Instead of relying on fear, we should focus on pouring love and protection into our relationships."Love and fear are true motivation. It's only reason why we do anything."In this episode, you will learn the following:1. What is the true motivation behind a man's actions.2. How can fathers prevent themselves from stifling their children's growth?3. How can fathers build meaningful connections with their partner while still setting boundaries and limits?
 
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Abolish Fear-Based Assumptions in 2023 | FATHA TORCH
Overcoming the ”You Ain’t Shit” Narrative in Co-Parenting | FATHA TORCH
Are You a Good Father? It All Comes Down to This | FATHA TORCH
 
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Ep. 13 I was once plagued by the question, "Am I a good father?" I asked myself if I was a good man and what it meant to be a good father.
After much thought and research, I realized that being a good father means having principles and characteristics such as protecting, loving, reasoning and being patient. It also means being willing to learn and humble yourself, while also being teachable and understanding of your child's mother.
Being a good father is more than just providing and setting boundaries - it's about being honest, understanding and recognizing your role in your child's life. I now strive to be the best father I can be and to leave a legacy of love, respect and understanding.In this episode, you will learn the following:1. What are the characteristics of a good father?2. How can men build relationships with women who have children from previous relationships?3. What makes a bad father and how can bad fathers make amends?Resources:
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Other episodes you'll enjoy:Overcoming the ”You Ain’t Shit” Narrative in Co-Parenting | FATHA TORCH
Letter to My Youngest Son | FATHA TORCH
Qualities of a Father with an Ungrateful Child | FATHA TORCHConnect with me: 
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Chapter Summaries:
[00:00:00]Father Torch is a podcast to help new and renew fathers cope with anxiety and stress. My mission is to help you reclaim your power and ease your concerns about being a father in today's social climate. What do we do to define a good father?
[00:00:43]Today's episode "Are you a good father?" What is the definition or characteristic of meaning of a good dad? To be a good man, you must have these principles.
[00:04:40]Most of the women or most women that we are engaged with carry 100% of the past relationships. As manhood, man of the house, you must know how to set the laws and rules. A good man, a good father first is patient and always listening. And always willing to learn.
[00:12:28]Bad fathers are the ones who do not want to learn or have not learned their lesson. Good father, bad father, you are still a father. You still have a chance and have the ability to be the best of the best father that you wish you had.
[00:20:05]The biggest trend that I see now with fathers and fatherhood is that they got such a fight to to try to be in the children's life. Some of us fall for it. And we end up hurt, broke, it, destruct, bitter, angry. A good father, a bad father is still a father.
[00:26:19]Fathers must get with other fathers. You never raise a child by yourself. It's always a village. But because we've fallen short on this, especially our black men, our brown men, we are falling short in the elders department. We can upgrade our fathering skills.
[00:28:51]Let's make 23 the year of reconcile. The year of forgiveness. The year of just doing right. Check me out again next Sunday. www.Fathatorch. com 
 

Ep. 12 In part 2 of his conversation with Kelly Marie, we embark on a journey of self-discovery, learning how to embrace anger, forgive those who have hurt you and relinquish guilt while navigating the complexities of relationships with parents, siblings and even other people who are living with mental health conditions. In this episode we discuss:1. How art and old cartoons can help you cope with depression.2. How to identify and let go of pent-up aggression.3. How to move past guilt and forgive oneself for the damage caused by anger.
 
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Mental Health Resources 
Call 211 or visit www.211.org for help finding public services in your area
Suicide Prevention Helpline has someone for you to talk to 24/7 call  988
Text GO to 741741 to reach a trained crisis counselor. 
 
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Better Relationships Come from Within: Self-Love and Forgiveness| Healthy Illness
Finding Purpose and Reclaiming Fatherhood in 2023 | Fatha Torch
The Other Side of Depression with Carl Binger and Joel Lesses | Fatha Torch
 
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Episode 11: About last year.... Have faith in yourself. Believe in your abilities to make ends meet, to strive. Lower your pride and lower your ego, that you may do better this year.
In this episode, you will learn the following:
What are the double standards men face in today's social climate, and what can fathers do to help themselves and their children?
How can fathers practice self-love, gratitude, and protect their families in the midst of a chaotic world?
What can fathers do to empower their children and provide them with the tools to succeed, even when they are no longer around?
Last year was a year of depression, hopelessness, and disparities, particularly for men. Fathers need to practice healthy habits, self-love, and gratitude to be a successful father. We should give our children the tools they need to succeed and guard them, but not helicopter over them. We must practice what we preach, take charge of ourselves, and be men of the time to be successful in this ever-changing world.
 
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Ep. 10 Emotional exhaustions amongst men can lead to depression and suicide. It is essential to recognize our mental exhaustion and make sure we are taking care of ourselves and our loved ones who are suffering in silence.
I am here to offer support and to listen to my brothers and sisters. I want to help them find healthy outlets to cope with anxiety and stress and to be the dad they wish they had. My mission is to help you reclaim their power and to prevent you from taking your own life. I am willing to provide a light in your darkest times and listen to whatever is on your heart.
Email me at FathaTorch@gmail.com
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I am here, Ra
 
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Episode 9 Fear-based assumptions can lead to a parent-child relationship of pain, drama and heartache for all involved. As fathers we often lash out at our kids in order to protect them from the unknown, or to prevent them from getting involved with something that we don't understand but are afraid to admit it.
In this episode let's explore another way to approach fatherhood in 2023. 
1. What does it mean for a father to actively listen to his children and not assume he knows everything?2. How can fathers instill fear of God and not fear of the world in their daughters?3. What is the importance of self-control, communication, and emotional connection in fatherhood?
As a father of nine, I have come to understand that assumptions about my children, myself, my family, and even my manhood can lead to pain, drama and headaches.
I know that I cannot assume that one conversation is enough to teach my children, and I must actively listen and show them love and support. I must also be mindful that although I have experience, it does not make me an expert on my children's lives.
I must be adaptable and have self-control, knowing that what I say will affect my children. I strive to speak life, prosperity, liberty, and innate spirit, teaching my children to be secure in themselves, and to be prepared and have the tools needed to protect themselves. 

Hi, my name is Rah, host of Fatha Torch Podcast and I invite you to join the conversation that needs to be had amongst men. Check out episode 9 "Abolish Fear-Based Assumptions in 2023" and leave a comment or email me at FathaTorch@gmail.com