Fatha Torch: Be the Dad You Wish You Had
An open discussion about fatherhood and the struggles we face as Black men in America. Topics include self-love, the child support system, emotional trauma from toxic relationships, societal injustices and reentry after incarceration. Hosted by Rah, a father of nine children, artist and founder of Abimilechh Foundation in Rochester, NY. F.A.T.H.A. T.O.R.C.H. is an acronym meaning: fathers are the highest authorities teaching of rooted cultural heritage.

About Me
Hello, my name is Rah, a father of nine, founder of Abimilechh Foundation in Rochester, NY.
After becoming a father in 1996, I set out to be the dad I always wished I had.
At first, I struggled with emotional traumas and mental health issues due to an inability to cope with loss, grief and barriers imposed by myself and others.
But then I was inspired to overcome these obstacles by friends and family members who saw me in my truth as a father.
I had the privilege of meeting and sharing my real-life experiences and lessons learned with parents worldwide since then and am excited to share these stories with you on the Fatha Torch Podcast.
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Episodes

Sunday Sep 17, 2023
Discipline, Control + Power: Awareness for Black Men, Young Fathers
Sunday Sep 17, 2023
Sunday Sep 17, 2023
Ep. 27 We must recognize that many of us lack self-awareness and struggle to comprehend the repercussions of losing control, and the importance of practicing self-discipline. To establish a healthy relationship with oneself and others, one must exert self-control and manage one's thoughts, which various emotional and developmental factors can influence. This is especially important to consider as a man and a father in today's world.
THE TRUTH AND FAULTS OF DISCIPLINE
It's essential to discipline your children early on, as you may regret it later if you don't. Additionally, if you find yourself bailing out hot-tempered individuals once, be prepared to do it again. This advice can be found in Proverbs 19:18-19 of the New Living Translation( NLT).
ANSWER THE FOLLOWING IN THE COMMENTS
Are you in control of your thoughts, or are they in control of you?
Do you struggle to comprehend yourself and your awareness?
Is there a support system in your life that you can turn to when you are experiencing difficulties with your emotions and thoughts?
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Monday Sep 04, 2023
Relationships 101: Starting With the Man in the Mirror
Monday Sep 04, 2023
Monday Sep 04, 2023
Ep. 26 Relationship 101 provides us with the hope that our values and worth will be acknowledged by someone. It is equally crucial to deeply understand ourselves and the aspects we hold in high regard. It is important to make sure that these values are respected by our partners. Otherwise, we risk compromising our own sense of self-worth and integrity. It is also essential to be open to learning from our partner and growing together in the relationship.
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Monday Aug 21, 2023
Fatherhood Unveiled: Rights, Duties, and Emotional Resonance
Monday Aug 21, 2023
Monday Aug 21, 2023
Ep. 25 The concept of fatherhood is a joke to many people and systems that govern our society. We have the right to procreate, but our rights to nurture, discipline and guide our children is slipping away every day.
In this episode Fatha Torch will help you reclaim your power and authority as a man and be the dad you wish you had.
1: Fathers' Rights and Duties:
- Discuss fathers' legal and societal rights regarding parenting, custody, and decision-making.
2: Breaking Stereotypes: Embracing Emotional Support:
- Discuss the importance of emotional bonding and its positive impact on children's development.
3: Respectful Co-Parenting and Collaboration:
- Highlight the significance of respectful communication and collaboration between parents, whether together or separated.
4: Navigating Work-Life Balance:
- Explore the delicate balance fathers often face between work commitments and family responsibilities.
5: Shaping Future Generations: Role Modeling and Legacy.
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Sunday Aug 06, 2023
Maturing from Man-Child to Father
Sunday Aug 06, 2023
Sunday Aug 06, 2023
Ep. 24 The idea of taking responsibility and being accountable can be intimidating for men who struggle with abandonment issues and commitment-related traumas. Some simply don't care about life or its lessons and behave poorly as a result. It is necessary to break these negative patterns and move on with life, taking responsibility for one's actions and learning from mistakes. This is ultimately the only way to lead a fulfilling and meaningful life for you and your children.
Why Do I have to Grow-up Once I Have Kids?
1. Fathers who are mature and responsible can provide a positive role model for their children. Children learn a lot from observing and imitating their parents, especially their fathers. They can develop social skills, academic abilities, emotional regulation, and self-esteem by following their father’s example.
2. Having a child can be a rewarding and fulfilling experience for men, as they can bond with their child and share their love and wisdom. However, having a child also requires men to balance their work and family life, and to cope with the demands and challenges of parenthood. Men who act their age and manage their time and resources wisely can enjoy both aspects of their life without compromising one or the other.
3. Being a "grown-up" does not mean that men have to give up their hobbies, interests, or fun activities that they enjoy. It just means that they have to be more mindful of how their actions affect themselves, their partner, and their child. Being a father is not easy, but it can also be one of the most rewarding roles in life. 😊
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Realistic Expectations: Key to Successful Fatherhood
I Am FATHA: Fathers are the Highest Authority (It’s time we act like it)
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Sunday Jul 23, 2023
Discipline Children While There is Hope, Otherwise You Will Ruin Their Lives
Sunday Jul 23, 2023
Sunday Jul 23, 2023
Ep. 23 Being a father requires possessing proper guidance, self-control, and discipline. Discipline should be viewed as a tool to impart knowledge to children about making better decisions in the future rather than punishment. Communicating expectations and consequences calmly, firmly, and consistently is essential to ensure the child comprehends. It's crucial for both parents to work together to ensure the best possible outcome for their child.
Proverbs 19:18 NLT
"Discipline your children while there is hope. Otherwise, you will ruin their lives."
Consistent and fair consequences are important for a child to understand the set boundaries and learn from mistakes. Praise and positive reinforcement should also be used to reward good behavior and to encourage a child's development. It is important to remember to remain consistent in the way consequences are enforced. Avoiding punishments or rewards that are overly harsh or lenient will help to ensure that the child understands the logic behind the consequences. This will enable them to learn to make better choices in the future.
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The Truth About Forgiveness: How to Make Peace with Yourself and Be Better for Your Kids
Realistic Expectations: Key to Successful Fatherhood
I Am FATHA: Fathers are the Highest Authority (It’s time we act like it)
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Sunday Jul 09, 2023
Sunday Jul 09, 2023
Ep. 22 Translating forgiveness can be a challenging process, especially when grappling with emotions such as regret, anger, and confusion. It's crucial to clearly understand oneself to avoid getting lost in a world of pain.
Taking the time to forgive is important in accepting the situation and moving forward in your journey to be the dad you wish you had. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting but rather understanding and accepting what has happened. It is a path to peace and a way to open the door to a brighter future.
As men, we must learn to confront our pain and vulnerabilities head-on to attain redemption. Forgiveness, whether towards oneself or others, may appear unattainable, but dwelling on the negative only hinders the healing process. With the help of loved ones, we can create a nurturing environment that encourages growth and progress.
Rather than clinging to familiarity, we should embrace the power of a supportive circle and allow ourselves to heal. This journey of self-discovery can be difficult and uncomfortable, but in the end, it will lead to a more meaningful life. The courage to change is within us, and we must believe in ourselves to find the strength to move forward.
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I Am FATHA: Fathers are the Highest Authority (It’s time we act like it)
Passing the Torch: Embracing Growth & Maturity as Men
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Saturday Jun 10, 2023
Realistic Expectations: Key to Successful Fatherhood
Saturday Jun 10, 2023
Saturday Jun 10, 2023
Ep. 21 Growing up without a father I found myself setting unrealistic expectations on other men in my life, trying to fill the void my father left. But there were always disappointments because those men simply could not give me the things my soul longed for. It wasn't until I learned to set realistic expectations for myself, my partner and my children that I could truly embrace my goal of being the dad I wish I had.
In this episode I share with you my journey of self-discovery and how I learned to find joy in the journey of fatherhood by setting realistic expectations.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Grasp the power of establishing practical expectations in pursuit of accomplishments.
Unravel the secrets to fortifying relationships through intentional family planning.
Examine the aftermath of damaging expectations and abuse during the prenatal stage.
Master techniques to overcome feelings of inadequacy as a devoted father.
Unearth strategies to nurture self-esteem and embolden confidence in oneself and others.
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Stop Being Your Child’s Friend and Start Being Their Leader
How to Embrace the Wisdom of Elders to Raise the Youth

Sunday May 28, 2023
I Am FATHA: Fathers are the Highest Authority (It’s time we act like it)
Sunday May 28, 2023
Sunday May 28, 2023
Ep. 20 As fathers, it's imperative that we possess a deep understanding of ourselves. The archaic notion of relying on guesswork to ascertain our worth and capabilities is a thing of the past. We must be cognizant of our duties and rights as fathers, and we shouldn't have to be reminded of this simply because we are fathers. Because we are men, it is our duty to protect our loved ones from any imminent danger without any apologies. We do not rely on mere likes or friend requests for a solution as we set the trend. But, with discipline and authority, we assist in your growth and prosperity and the development of our survival and legacy.
Being honest and trustworthy is crucial. We must acknowledge our limitations and avoid attempting things beyond our abilities. Blindly following authority without questioning it is not a trait of a wise man. This mindset is a product of ignorance and a legacy of conquerors who ruled with authoritarianism, disregarding the feelings and situations of others while serving their wicked interests.
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Monday May 15, 2023
Passing the Torch: Embracing Growth & Maturity as Men
Monday May 15, 2023
Monday May 15, 2023
Ep. 19 Do you want to leave a positive legacy by shaping and guiding the next generation? As 'young elders' we can empower and inspire the youth to reach their full potential and become the leaders of tomorrow.
In this episode of Fatha Torch, I, Rah, delve into the topic of the importance of becoming an elder and sharing wisdom with younger generations. As a father and mentor myself, I understand the need to pass down knowledge and experiences for future generations to learn and grow from. I discuss the four aspects of development - emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual - and how children need to learn how to handle each aspect to reach their full potential. I also touch on the self-destructive nature of gangster culture and the importance of fathers taking up their highest honor to create a space where their children can thrive and grow.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Embrace the vital role of becoming an elder in society to enrich lives by sharing your wisdom.
Balance your growth in emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual aspects for well-rounded development.
Acknowledge the damaging effects of gang culture and violence on individuals and communities.
Harness your innate power and knowledge for progress across all dimensions of your life.
Cultivate essential qualities like discipline, humility, and inner guidance to excel as responsible fathers.
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Other episodes you'll enjoy:
Why Kids Don’t Respect Their Parents Anymore
Stop Being Your Child’s Friend and Start Being Their Leader
How to Embrace the Wisdom of Elders to Raise the Youth
The key moments in this episode are:00:00:00 - Importance of Mentors, 00:05:03 - Retired Gangsters, 00:09:44 - Becoming an Elder, 00:12:12 - Male Development, 00:13:34 - Lack of Elders, 00:15:24 - Embracing Your Inner Power, 00:17:42 - The Importance of Nurturing, 00:20:06 - Overcoming Fear and Adversity, 00:21:51 - Creating a Legacy, 00:25:18 - Gratitude and Reflection,

Sunday Apr 30, 2023
Sunday Apr 30, 2023
Ep. 18 This episode is a tribute to my grandparents who have shaped my life as Fatha Torch, a beacon of light for the next generation. As a father, I believe it is important to honor our elders and learn from their wisdom, especially in these challenging times. In this episode, you will learn:
How honoring your elders is a way of embracing and uplifting our generations
How to connect with your elders and listen to their stories
What benefits you can gain from learning from the wisdom of the past
How to pass on the legacy of your elders to your children and future generations
Why listening to grandparents is a good way to learn about your cultural heritage and family history
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